When a relationship breaks down, advice comes from everywhere.

Family members. Friends. Work colleagues. People who have been through their own divorce or separation.

While these conversations often come from a good place, family law in England and Wales is rarely one-size-fits-all. Advice that was right for one person may be completely wrong for someone else.

For families with connections to other countries, including Poland and Pakistan, misunderstandings can be even more common. Legal systems, cultural expectations and religious practices can differ significantly, making it even more important to seek advice based on your own circumstances.

Here are some of the most common family law myths we hear and why relying on them could lead to costly mistakes.

Myth 1: "Mothers Always Get Custody"

One of the most persistent misconceptions is that mothers automatically receive custody of children following separation.

In reality, the courts focus on the child's welfare and what arrangements are in their best interests. Decisions are based on the specific circumstances of each family rather than the gender of either parent.

This means fathers can play an active role in their children's lives after separation, and many families are able to reach arrangements that allow both parents to remain involved.

Myth 2: "I Can Move Abroad With My Child If I Want To"

Whether it is returning to Poland, Pakistan, or another country where family support is available, many parents assume they can simply relocate with their child after separation.

However, international relocation can involve important legal considerations. Depending on the circumstances, the consent of another person with parental responsibility may be required, or an application to the court may be necessary.

"International families often face unique challenges following separation. It is important to understand your legal position before making decisions about relocating with a child, even when the move feels like the most natural next step for the family." - Sylwia Zając, Family Solicitor

Seeking legal advice early can help avoid misunderstandings and protect both parents and children from unnecessary distress.

Myth 3: "We Agreed Everything Between Ourselves, So That's Enough"

Reaching an amicable agreement is often positive and can help reduce stress at an already difficult time.

However, informal agreements about finances, property or arrangements for children do not always provide the certainty people expect. Circumstances can change, memories can differ, and disagreements can arise months or even years later.

Obtaining legal advice does not mean creating conflict. In many cases, it helps prevent future disputes by ensuring everyone understands their rights and responsibilities from the outset.

Myth 4: "A Religious Divorce Is The Same As A Legal Divorce"

For many families, faith and cultural traditions play an important role during separation.

However, a religious divorce and a legal divorce do not necessarily have the same legal effect in England and Wales.

Issues relating to finances, property ownership and legal marital status may require separate consideration under the law, regardless of any religious process that has taken place.

"Many clients are surprised to learn that a religious divorce and a legal divorce can have very different consequences. Taking advice at an early stage can help individuals understand their rights and avoid unexpected difficulties later on." - Zahra Nawaz, Partner

Understanding the distinction can provide clarity and help prevent important legal issues from being overlooked.

Myth 5: "My Friend Had The Same Situation"

This is perhaps the most common misconception of all.

No two family law cases are identical. Small differences in circumstances can lead to very different outcomes.

What happened in a friend's divorce, a relative's child arrangements case or a colleague's financial settlement may have little relevance to your own situation.

While personal experiences can be helpful, they should never replace professional legal advice tailored to your individual circumstances.

Frequently Asked Questions

Can I get family law advice in Polish or Urdu?

Yes. Our family law team can provide advice in both Polish and Urdu, helping clients discuss sensitive legal matters in the language they feel most comfortable using. We also offer free 30-minute consultations.

Can I move abroad with my child after separation?

Possibly, but the answer depends on your circumstances. In some cases, the agreement of everyone with parental responsibility or permission from the court may be required before relocating internationally.

Does a religious divorce have the same effect as a legal divorce?

Not necessarily. A religious divorce and a legal divorce serve different purposes. It is important to understand whether additional legal steps may be needed to protect your rights under the laws of England and Wales.

Do I need a solicitor if my former partner and I agree on everything?

Even where matters are amicable, legal advice can help ensure that agreements relating to finances, property and children are properly considered and documented.

What happens during the free 30-minute consultation?

During your consultation, a member of our family law team will discuss your circumstances, explain your legal options and outline how we may be able to assist.

Can I discuss child arrangements with a Polish or Urdu-speaking solicitor?

Yes. We can provide advice on child arrangements, parental responsibility, relocation issues and other family law matters in both Polish and Urdu.

Get Advice You Can Rely On

Family law issues can be stressful, emotional and confusing. Getting clear legal advice at an early stage can help you understand your options, protect your position and make informed decisions about the future.

Whether you are seeking advice about divorce, children, finances, domestic abuse or international family law issues, our team is here to help.

With advice available in English, Polish and Urdu, clients can discuss sensitive family matters in the language they feel most comfortable using.

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Contact our team today to discuss your situation.